Parents all over are reimagining parenthood......And I'm thinking you might be one of them!
So many of us were raised with criticism, punishment, or taught that it wasn't okay for us to have needs. We didn't feel loved, seen, or valued under those parenting systems. Now we're raising kids and it's tough to give them what we didn't get from our parents. Since you're here, I'm thinking that you're a mom who wants to be a secure adult for your children. You might worry that you'll repeat the mistakes your parents made that hurt you. But if you didn't receive support and encouragement and presence as a kid it's hard to know how to provide it now. You're probably doing some of it, because you feel like you can't just not try... but I bet it's exhausting, and you are struggling, and it feels like you're giving more than you have. You are a pattern breaker in your family line. And, likely, part of what's so hard is you're dealing with each moment as it comes along. When we're building something new we so often feeling like we're just winging it. You might feel like it's even bigger than your family. The pressures of the world are toward control, extraction, and competition. But you may feel that what is needed out there is care, connectedness, and empathy. Me too. And I think we can contribute to the skills of the world by raising our children with the skills of community and togetherness. It begins with us, at home. (You can read more about this on the My Phiolosophy page). But what if there's a foundation that you can count on? What if using nature as your guide can help you feel like you always have the support of lifegiving forces to keep you going? And not only that, nature can provide solutions to the problems you face. |
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Why we do the work of cultivating a family culture of care, togetherness, and love
I think we do it because we have to. We have to (and want to) because we refuse to continue things as they were.
We know deep in our bones that and hearts that our family can be a refuge and we want to create that for our children.
It's a powerful act of creation and hope to have children and tend to them in ways that nourish their souls.
I believe in a future where people take care of one another, not by giving themselves away and pretending they don't have needs, but by standing together. I want our children to grow into that world. And that means we have to do our part in creating it.
We know deep in our bones that and hearts that our family can be a refuge and we want to create that for our children.
It's a powerful act of creation and hope to have children and tend to them in ways that nourish their souls.
I believe in a future where people take care of one another, not by giving themselves away and pretending they don't have needs, but by standing together. I want our children to grow into that world. And that means we have to do our part in creating it.
I'm a mom who had to find her own way too
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I am Jill Doneen Clifton, pattern breaker and creator of Landscape of Mothers.
Landscape of Mothers is a map of the inner landscape I've visited on my journey to be the parent I wanted my children to have. I reclaimed these inner places from a childhood of isolation and neglect, and found the skills, perspectives, and hope that I needed in order to create a supportive and loving family culture. I did this work out of desperation. I scrambled to read books, take classes, and figure it out. I was so focused on taking care of my kids, though, that I didn't see how much I needed to reparent myself, to build and reclaim me, so that I could be there for them. I hope that by sharing my map for venturing into this unknown land of building a new family culture, that it will help you find your own map. When we embark on something we know is important, but we don't know how it will happen, we can feel adrift, overwhelmed, frightened, and it's so easy not to do it. But if we're dedicated to breaking patterns of harm in our family, or in our own psyche, it helps to know the lay of the land. |
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Landscape of Mothers is a map
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Landscape of Mothers is a wheel of nature based archetypes – a Council of Mothers – within you – that can guide you on your mothering journey. Archetypes give us a lens through which to see what we're dealing with, but they leave room for us to approach with our own blend of autonomy, capacity, and choice to find our way through parenting in a way that feels correct for us.
Landscape of Mothers is based in the natural world. Nature can provide the soothing, holding, and nervous system regulation that you may have missed as a child. The natural world can also be a map, helping us find our way when we're looking to build a family culture that we have not yet known. You can read more about how we build a relationship with nature in this blog post. And in this post I talk about some innate patterns that support communal living that we see in nature. |
Building a connection with nature and learning to regulate the nervous system restores the ability to tap into your intuition and your inner guidance. It grows the Inner Mother who can now care for your Inner Child as well as your current/future offspring. Nature is the map, it locates us where we are. And from there we can see our strengths and struggles so that we can know where we might go.
How I can help
Sun and Moon Mother
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Wounds around care in infancy and childhood can make us feel trapped in what is familiar. Cycles of criticism, isolation, and judgment damage the innate mechanisms that help us find our own way. Landscape of Mothers helps us restore and reclaim trust in our instincts, capabilities, and discernment.
How Landscape of Mothers helps:
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The pattern breakers I know are probably your kindreds too
My clients are both intensely dedicated and gently kindhearted. They feel deeply and know when things aren't working, even if they aren't always sure how to fix it. They are devoted to a world that values one another, though they've been hurt by the world we are living in. Most often they cheer for the underdog because they see the injustice of being undercut by the system.
Find out more about the Landscape of Mothers Book here.
Contains full descriptions of the eight archetypes that make up the Landscape of Mothers as well as how to get the most out of working with them.
Contains full descriptions of the eight archetypes that make up the Landscape of Mothers as well as how to get the most out of working with them.
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