moms all over are reimagining parenthood
You are not alone. So many of us were raised with criticism, punishment, or taught that it wasn't okay for us to have needs. We didn't feel loved, seen, or valued under those systems. Now we're raising kids and it's tough to give them what we didn't get from our parents.
Since you're here, I'm thinking that you're a mom who wants to be a secure adult for your children. You might worry that you'll repeat the mistakes your parents made that hurt you. But if you didn't receive support and encouragement and presence as a kid it's hard to know how to provide it now. You're probably doing some of it, because you feel like you can't just not try... but I bet it's exhausting, and you are struggling, and it feels like you're giving more than you have. You are a pattern breaker in your family line. And, likely, part of what's so hard is you're dealing with each moment as it comes along. When we're building something new we so often feeling like we're just winging it. But what if there's a foundation that you can count on? What if using nature as your guide can help you feel like you always have the support of lifegiving forces to keep you going? And not only that, nature can provide solutions to the problems you face. |
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landscape of mothers can provide a map and compass
Landscape of Mothers is a wheel of nature based archetypes – a Council of Mothers – within you – that can guide you on your mothering journey. Archetypes allow us to stand in a very particular place and use a specialized lens to look at our lives. We can then see with a new perspective and observe possibilities that already exist. Archetypes can be thought of as the overlook and compass that we use to find our direction.
Landscape of Mothers is based in nature practices that bring you home to yourself. Nature can provide the soothing, holding, and nervous system regulation that you may have missed as a child. The natural world is a map for helping us find our way when we're looking to build a kind of family culture that we did not know growing up. |
You can read more about how we build a relationship with nature in this blog post. And in this post I talk about some of our innate patterns that support our communal living that we see in nature.
Building a connection with nature and learning to regulate the nervous system restores the ability to tap into your intuition and your inner guidance. It grows the Inner Mother who can now care for your Inner Child as well as your current/future offspring. Nature is the map, it locates us where we are. And from there we can see our strengths and struggles so that we can know where we might go.
Building a connection with nature and learning to regulate the nervous system restores the ability to tap into your intuition and your inner guidance. It grows the Inner Mother who can now care for your Inner Child as well as your current/future offspring. Nature is the map, it locates us where we are. And from there we can see our strengths and struggles so that we can know where we might go.
i'm a mom who had to find her own way too
I am Jill Doneen Clifton, pattern breaker and author of Landscape of Mothers.
Landscape of Mothers is a map of the inner landscape I've visited on my journey to be the parent I wanted my children to have. I reclaimed these inner places from a childhood of isolation and neglect, and found the skills, perspectives, and hope that I needed in order to create a supportive and loving family culture. I did this work out of desperation. My kids were here in this world and I needed to figure things out NOW! I scrambled to read books, take classes, and figure it out. I was so focused on taking care of my kids, though, that I didn't see how much I needed to reparent myself, to build and reclaim me, so that I could be there for them. |
I hope that by sharing my map for venturing into this unknown land of building a new family culture, that it will help you find your own map. When we embark on something we know is important, but we don't know how it will happen, we can feel adrift, overwhelmed, frightened, and it's so easy not to do it. But if we're dedicated to breaking patterns of harm in our family, or in our own psyche, it helps to have a way to orient.
How I can help
Sun and Moon Mother
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Wounds around care in infancy and childhood can make us feel trapped in what is familiar. Cycles of criticism, isolation, and judgment damage the innate mechanisms that help us find our own way. Landscape of Mothers helps us restore and reclaim trust in our instincts, capabilities, and discernment.
How Landscape of Mothers helps:
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the pattern breakers i know are probably your kindreds too
My clients are both intensely dedicated and gently kindhearted. They feel deeply and know when things aren't working, even if they aren't always sure how to fix it. They are devoted to a world that values one another, though they've been hurt by the world we are living in. Most often they cheer for the underdog because they see the injustice of being undercut by the system.
Order the Landscape of Mothers Book here.
Contains full descriptions of the eight archetypes that make up the Landscape of Mothers as well as how to get the most out of working with them. |
Want some guidance but don’t want to over-commit yourself? This short self-guided course is for you. The course takes 90 minutes and you’ll leave with a clear vision of your desired family culture and how to begin.
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