Do you find that even though you try to parent very differently from how you were raised, you are still resorting to the same tactics your parents used? (Like yelling, punishing your kids when they don't deserve it, threatening to take things away, or saying the same things your parents said to you that made you feel bad)
This doesn't happen because you're a bad parent, it happens because our nervous systems are built to return to the familiar, particularly when we don't know what else to do.
Is parenting just overwhelming, a perpetual struggle, and it seems like everyone else is having an easier time of it? Are you exhausted and stressed, maybe even imagining that a hospital stay sounds great so you could get some rest?
Of course parenting is overwhelming, just step back and look at all the conflicting advice we get about mothering; you've got to have a full time job but you should also make sure you're available to your kids 24/7, you should get that self-care in but don't let it take away from your family time, make sure your kids go to the best preschool so they can get into the right college but don't put too much pressure on them.
This is where we are after generations of whittling down the presence of an entire community, leaving just one or two adults in a household, who are also tasked with keeping the roof over everyone's heads and food on the table. It's just too much.
While it's great to have expert advice at our fingertips (yay internet!) it also means that you can find everyone saying everything (boo internet!).
How do we decide what we're going to do in parenting? Especially if we are also trying to create more life-affirming patterns in our families than we grew up with?
In our sessions we will:
At the end of this series you will have clarity about what is causing your difficulty, how to avoid getting caught between two bad options, and how to soothe yourself when the inevitable difficulties arise. You will also have a list of actionable items that move you toward YOUR vision of what good parenting looks like, as well as a Plan of Care that will catch you when things get tough.
This doesn't happen because you're a bad parent, it happens because our nervous systems are built to return to the familiar, particularly when we don't know what else to do.
Is parenting just overwhelming, a perpetual struggle, and it seems like everyone else is having an easier time of it? Are you exhausted and stressed, maybe even imagining that a hospital stay sounds great so you could get some rest?
Of course parenting is overwhelming, just step back and look at all the conflicting advice we get about mothering; you've got to have a full time job but you should also make sure you're available to your kids 24/7, you should get that self-care in but don't let it take away from your family time, make sure your kids go to the best preschool so they can get into the right college but don't put too much pressure on them.
This is where we are after generations of whittling down the presence of an entire community, leaving just one or two adults in a household, who are also tasked with keeping the roof over everyone's heads and food on the table. It's just too much.
While it's great to have expert advice at our fingertips (yay internet!) it also means that you can find everyone saying everything (boo internet!).
How do we decide what we're going to do in parenting? Especially if we are also trying to create more life-affirming patterns in our families than we grew up with?
In our sessions we will:
- begin with Sun and Moon Mother to establish some nervous system regulation for the whole family
- discuss your current difficulty and place it in a larger context of the Landscape of Mothers ecosystem to get a larger perspective on what is contributing to that problem
- address any double binds (where can't choose between two options because neither feels correct, which often occurs in the face of the conflicting advice we get as mothers)
- make a plan of action to soothe your nervous system so that you can find rootedness for making parental decisions
- co-create a Plan of Care that you can follow anytime you feel overwhelmed
At the end of this series you will have clarity about what is causing your difficulty, how to avoid getting caught between two bad options, and how to soothe yourself when the inevitable difficulties arise. You will also have a list of actionable items that move you toward YOUR vision of what good parenting looks like, as well as a Plan of Care that will catch you when things get tough.
We might be a good fit for working together if...
- You want your kids to have a different childhood than you had, and you're struggling to figure out how to do it
- You feel alone in parenting and don't feel resonant with the advice you get from family, friend, maybe even your partner
- Reading parenting books and trying to educate yourself didn't get the results you were going for
- You want a parenting framework to hold you in relating with the family you have, not a recipe for how to act or who to be to make the family you "should" have
- You want to create a household that is a sanctuary from the harsh world
Details
- Four 1-hour meetings zoom
- I'll provide you with actions to take between meetings
- Cost is $400 for the one-month series
Rooted Mothering:
Anchoring into Landscape of Mothers as a Wheel
A three-month journey
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We live in chaotic times, but we don't have to parent from the pressure cooker that surrounds us. We can build our household as a place of respite from the harshness and stress. We can be humanizing parents in a dehumanizing world. It can be difficult to unhook from societal expectations, but it's not so hard if we have a framework for what we're stepping into. Landscape of Mothers offers a framework for parenting that is rooted in nature and natural systems, and deeply in service to life, care, and sanctuary. The chaotic world asks us to be everything to everyone all the time. Landscape of Mothers invites us to know our capacity, to establish healthy boundaries, and to offer our togetherness in ways we both want to give and think might be well received. Landscape of Mothers is about redefining family around what yours wants and needs. |
In this 10-session series we traverse the entire Landscape of Mothers ecosystem. We take one Mother at a time and explore what she represents in your life and how her skills and tools can serve you. As you perceive the Mothers and their realms you will begin to see them in the natural world all the time, building your sense of belonging and presence in tending to your family vision.
You will also get access to audio guided meditations for further exploration of each of the landscapes so that you can deepen your relationship and understanding of the Mothers. Deepening work may also be invited through journal prompts or small workbooks.
There is also an option for real-time messaging support between sessions.
Getting to know all of the Landscape Mothers creates the foundation for parenting that lets you release old patterns and intentionally tend your relationships with your children.
You will also get access to audio guided meditations for further exploration of each of the landscapes so that you can deepen your relationship and understanding of the Mothers. Deepening work may also be invited through journal prompts or small workbooks.
There is also an option for real-time messaging support between sessions.
Getting to know all of the Landscape Mothers creates the foundation for parenting that lets you release old patterns and intentionally tend your relationships with your children.
The Mothers we work with are:
- Sun and Moon Mother to establish our nourishing and supportive ritual and cadence
- Wind Mother to dream into the possibility of your vision
- Desert Mother to explore our boundaries and ways to express them in ways that are kind to ourselves and others
- Island Mother to identify what is ours to do
- Mountain Mother to cultivate presence and stability within ourselves
- River Mother to move plan to action with our values at the center
- Forest Mother to cultivate our relationships with one another
- Ocean Mother to allow time to integrate, as well as find ourselves connected to that which is bigger than us
Details:
- 10 one-hour Zoom sessions
- I'll give you action items to do between meetings
- You'll have real time messaging support between sessions
- Cost is $1200 for the 3-month series (payment plans available)