Parent Mentoring Services
Meeting You Where You Are: Introductory Sessions
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In this series of meetings on zoom, we work one-to-one to articulate the struggle that you are facing right now. We then locate them within the Landscape of Mothers framework so that we can see where solutions might lie.
Your location on the Landscape of Mothers map affords a view of the problem, possibilities for solutions, as well as a way to think about your family as an ecosystem. We begin by getting familiar with the restorative nature of Sun and Moon Mother. I will offer exercises and tasks for you to do between sessions to clarify and anchor the work you're doing. |
Do you find that even though you try to parent very differently from how you were raised, you are still resorting to the same tactics your parents used? (Like yelling, punishing your kids when they don't deserve it, threatening to take things away, or saying the same things your parents said to you that made you feel bad)
This doesn't happen because you're a bad parent, it happens because our nervous systems are built to return to the familiar, particularly when we don't know what else to do.
Is parenting just overwhelming, a perpetual struggle, and it seems like everyone else is having an easier time of it? Are you exhausted and stressed, maybe even imagining that a hospital stay sounds great so you could get some rest?
Of course parenting is overwhelming, just step back and look at all the conflicting advice we get about mothering; you've got to have a full time job but you should also make sure you're available to your kids 24/7, you should get that self-care in but don't let it take away from your family time, make sure your kids go to the best preschool so they can get into the right college but don't put too much pressure on them.
This is where we are after generations of whittling down the presence of an entire community, leaving just one or two adults in a household, who are also tasked with keeping the roof over everyone's heads and food on the table. It's just too much.
While it's great to have expert advice at our fingertips (yay internet!) it also means that you can find everyone saying everything (boo internet!).
How do we decide what we're going to do in parenting? Especially if we are also trying to create more life-affirming patterns in our families than we grew up with?
This doesn't happen because you're a bad parent, it happens because our nervous systems are built to return to the familiar, particularly when we don't know what else to do.
Is parenting just overwhelming, a perpetual struggle, and it seems like everyone else is having an easier time of it? Are you exhausted and stressed, maybe even imagining that a hospital stay sounds great so you could get some rest?
Of course parenting is overwhelming, just step back and look at all the conflicting advice we get about mothering; you've got to have a full time job but you should also make sure you're available to your kids 24/7, you should get that self-care in but don't let it take away from your family time, make sure your kids go to the best preschool so they can get into the right college but don't put too much pressure on them.
This is where we are after generations of whittling down the presence of an entire community, leaving just one or two adults in a household, who are also tasked with keeping the roof over everyone's heads and food on the table. It's just too much.
While it's great to have expert advice at our fingertips (yay internet!) it also means that you can find everyone saying everything (boo internet!).
How do we decide what we're going to do in parenting? Especially if we are also trying to create more life-affirming patterns in our families than we grew up with?
In our sessions we will:
At the end of this series you will have clarity about what is causing your difficulty, how to avoid getting caught between two bad options, and how to soothe yourself when the inevitable difficulties arise. You will also have a list of actionable items that move you toward YOUR vision of what good parenting looks like, as well as a Plan of Care that will catch you when things get tough.
- begin with Sun and Moon Mother to establish some nervous system regulation for the whole family
- discuss your current difficulty and place it in a larger context of the Landscape of Mothers ecosystem to get a larger perspective on what is contributing to that problem
- address any double binds (where can't choose between two options because neither feels correct, which often occurs in the face of the conflicting advice we get as mothers)
- make a plan of action to soothe your nervous system so that you can find rootedness for making parental decisions
- co-create a Plan of Care that you can follow anytime you feel overwhelmed
At the end of this series you will have clarity about what is causing your difficulty, how to avoid getting caught between two bad options, and how to soothe yourself when the inevitable difficulties arise. You will also have a list of actionable items that move you toward YOUR vision of what good parenting looks like, as well as a Plan of Care that will catch you when things get tough.
We might be a good fit for working together if...
- You want your kids to have a different childhood than you had, and you're struggling to figure out how to do it
- You feel alone in parenting and don't feel resonant with the advice you get from family, friend, maybe even your partner
- Reading parenting books and trying to educate yourself didn't get the results you were going for
- You want a parenting framework to hold you in relating with the family you have, not a recipe for how to act or who to be to make the family you "should" have
- You want to create a household that is a sanctuary from the harsh world
Details:
- We'll meet on Zoom
- Four 1 hour meetings over approximately 1 month
- Cost is $400 for the series