In 2015/16 I publicly told the story of how I came to be a mother. In the crafting of that story I found my inner Council Of Mothers. I realized that they were how I survived my journey through motherhood and I eventually found my true self amongst the hall of mirrors of my depression.
There was a time I realized that I had experienced about every kind of “being a mother” that one could be in this single lifetime. I had parented my own parents during their divorce, I placed a baby for adoption at 18, then I experienced infertility (what cruelty…), went through in vitro fertilization (IVF) treatments, and I had a surprise gift baby. I experienced debilitating postpartum depression after my last child, and found myself deeply questioning what it is to be a mother. What makes a good one? Am I a good one? Is there such a thing as a good mother?
Over the subsequent years, in my continued personal journey and working with other women through this process of reclaiming our Selves amidst motherhood, I’ve realized that it’s not just The Council of Mothers. There are other mother archetypes that are part of our inner landscape. It has led me to think of motherhood in more robust, whole, and multi-faceted ways.
Motherhood as a Sacred Journey
There are four perspectives I see around of the the Journey of Motherhood.
- Motherhood as a Personal Practice
- Motherhood as a Political Practice
- Motherhood as a Spiritual Practice
- Motherhood as a Lineage Healing Practice
These perspectives give us what we need to experience our whole selves within our role of mama. Simply considering these perspectives opts us out of the dichotomous view of Good Mother / Bad Mother that is so prevalent in our cultural dialogue.